Answer:
Meshes are not supported in RFEM because they are not "smooth surfaces", but consist of individual facets; see the third paragraph under Meshes vs. NURBS:
A mesh represents 3D surfaces as a series of discreet facets, […]
As an appropriate solution, we recommend using the Rhino command "MeshToNurbs".
The resulting polysurface can be exported to RFEM.